Genuine Choice: Why I Quit Twitter and Facebook

The ground is under my feet.

Snow turning soft, ridged snowmobile trails collapsing into black earth in the fields where we run our dog.

In the early morning, the blue jays show up to eat the sunflower seeds that the red squirrel has knocked out of the feeder. Chickadees and nuthatches flit around, and a woodpecker jabs at the suet in the hanging, metal cage.

The sun’s growing hotter, the moon was almost full last night, and in the midst of all of this my mind is following the track of a novel once again as I work each morning on revision, on rewriting scenes, on clarifying, on cutting back story, keeping in mind Hemingway’s iceberg theory.

My focus has returned for a couple of reasons, the main one being that I’ve left my primary social media accounts.

Last Thursday, I shuttered both my Facebook and Twitter profiles, alarmed by how often I’d been drifting to them, filling quiet moments by innocuously checking my feeds.

It isn’t innocuous.

I could feel it in my brain: an un-wellness, a kind of deadness, a deep tired.

And it isn’t just me, of course.

Constructed to deliver dopamine hits, social media, we now know, has been designed for addiction and I – like most artists living with the daily anxiety that can accompany the creative process, with all its chaos and choice – am perhaps extra susceptible (as are children, with their more plastic brains).

I think I’ve been extra susceptible this winter as well, with our relocation to a new community where I have only a few, tender roots, and the last few years (death, death, move, move, etc) catching up to me.

During this long and very cold season, it seems like it became automatic for me to fill time with the online realm of supposed connection, only to end up feeling deeply dissatisfied and sort-of diminished, an aching emptiness in my head, like my brain was wearing out.

“By letting technology lead the pace, we do not increase genuine choice at all,” writes Douglas Rushkoff in Present Shock.

This was in a section about the pressure to be ‘on’ caused by living in “digital culture’s asynchronous landscape.” It doesn’t matter if its 3 p.m. or 3 a.m., the Twitter feed is relentlessly scrolling by, ready for attention. “Instead of working inside the machine, as we did before,” he writes. “We must become the machine.”

If I was a machine, which I’m not, I’d be a slow one. It takes me four years to write a novel, a process populated by choices that cannot be led – or even nurtured – by technology.

Creativity is a thing of the subconscious, after all, delivering mysterious connections that sometimes the artist doesn’t even understand.

In order to craft a book a balance must be struck, I’ve learned, between conscious, rigorous choice and respect for the instinctual. All of which takes listening. Deeply. And listening requires making room.

Rushkoff does a podcast called Team Human, and the other day I listened to an episode with Manoush Zomorodi, the author of Bored and Brilliant: How Spacing Out Can Unlock Your Most Productive and Creative Self while I was painting my kitchen, a task I’d put off for months (leaving social media opens up a whole lot of time!).

She talked about a creative block she found herself facing and how she realized that her most creative connections were often made during what she called ‘cracks in the day,’ like when she was waiting for the subway or pushing her baby stroller.

Cracks that now are often taken over by quick checks of our devices.

With this in mind, Manoush embarked on a social experiment called Bored and Brilliant (follow that link to do the challenges). In this process, she helped herself and others come to understand and address how constant digital engagement is altering our relationships with our deepest creative selves.

Here’s a snippet of the podcast (listen to it here):

M: To me, it’s not rocket science but it’s having to name a human emotion that we took for granted before that is slowly being bred out of our behaviour.

D: It’s not even just an emotion. It’s a human modality.

M: Completely.

D: It’s a brain state.

M: Yes.

D: And if you look or stick them … not that I love MRI experiments … put people in MRIs …

M: Oh, I love them.

D: The brain is very active in boredom … It’s like a car at neutral but it’s revving and it’s doing things that it wouldn’t do otherwise. That’s why I always tell people there’s no such thing as writer’s block, that your work and your brain is churning and germinating and don’t worry about it.

M: For me, it was like monkey mind. It was like I couldn’t just let the ideas flow into each other in a way. … The thing is, they know now that when you’re bored you ignite a network in your brain called the default mode and as you’re saying, [in] that default mode you are 95 percent as busy as when you are your most focused and so your brain goes to work and you do all of these things. Now, if you’re meditating, you’re not in the default mode and if you’re updating Instagram, you are also not in the default mode… The default mode is when your body is on auto-pilot and your brain just goes…

Previously, when I’d take Mowat for his afternoon run, I’d bring my phone.

I might snap a picture and stick it on Facebook or think of a catchy status update.

Now, I don’t. Instead, I wade out of the deep water of my morning writing practice (because I’m writing much better, sans constant distraction) and am still dripping out on the railroad tracks beside our house with the dog. The story eddies around in my mind, so that when I get home I usually have to grab a pen and jot some notes.

Of course, I’m not saying that social networks are entirely evil.

They have given us incredible tools for connecting with the wider world, for energizing and organizing movements, for keeping us up to date on real-world community events, but, as Rushkoff says, when they are in control, we lose options. And they are often in control, because they were engineered to be that way.

For me, I felt it. The loss. The breaking off of another kind of connection that’s essential to my health, my career, my wholeness – and that is this: deep access to my own mind, unmitigated by an addiction to likes and constant feedback and a fervour of tweets and tiny hearts.

For the sensitive among us, the people who create like I do in order (to paraphrase Joan Didion) to become aware of what we’re thinking, this loss can be deadly. It can mean an end to creativity, the kind of echoing mental dullness that Manoush talks about in that podcast.

Likely, I will return to social media.

This is, after all, the world in which we live.

I will need access to broader populations when I’ve got new books out or another online course, but for now I’m working on the next novel, reading (connect with me on Goodreads!), coaching other writers who are swimming in the sea and pondering the next iteration of Fearless Finishing (my pilot ended recently and received lovely praise like “this course is incredibly thoughtful and well put together” and “there was something very welcoming about the course and the class” and “thank you for your hard work and honesty. Thank you thank you thank you thank you — to infinity.” Insert grinning emoticon here.)

For now, for right now, I’m sitting at my desk, looking up at deep blue sky, thinking about posting this, about getting a cup of tea, about taking the dog out for a run before I talk with two clients about their own important, individual, and meaningful writing work.

Try this: Know your gut. Do what you have to do to make some genuine choices – and please tell me about it in the comments. I would love to hear your thoughts!

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7 Responses to Genuine Choice: Why I Quit Twitter and Facebook

  1. Angileen Gallop March 2, 2018 at 1:49 pm #

    Food for thought. Add to this the fact that my Facebook feed has become a scrapbook of sorts with pics and conversations/comments from my kids as they’ve grown up. It’s such an easy tool to capture moments, have them date-stamped, and it’s lovely to have them served back up years later… oh dear. I wish FB wasn’t so manipulative and possessive of our info.

    • Lauren
      Lauren March 2, 2018 at 5:55 pm #

      I hear you, Angie! That’s a big reason why I haven’t deleted my account – although anyone leaving can download it all… (I’m actually thinking about capturing it and streamlining so whenever I go back on it’ll be more immediate, for a purpose). Facebook, of course, sells all of that info – it’s the largest producer of data. I’m not sure how I feel about that – it creeps me out somewhat, somewhat inspires me to shrug and think, well, this is the world now, and also gets my brain ticking towards another dystopian storyline. For right now: just trying to read, read, read, & get underneath the obvious 🙂 So much of this is, as you say, food for thought (and no easy answers).

  2. Tara Borin March 2, 2018 at 8:27 am #

    It’s so enticing to hear of your experience! I know I struggle with social media and my phone usage, I know I have no dreamy downtime for my mind (except for walks). But…being so geographically isolated from any literary community, I feel like I’m missing out without Twitter. Ideally, I’d like to learn to balance, but as you point out, these things are designed to be addictive…feels like the deck is stacked against me! I’m not sure what the answer is yet for me, but it continues to be on my mind and I love hearing about your success!

    • Lauren
      Lauren March 2, 2018 at 8:48 am #

      Thanks for your comment, Tara! I think what’s most important is to make sure that life in the here and now is as community-engaged as life online (working on that myself!) ~ and you seem to be doing that with your artist-gathering group activities 🙂 If you haven’t clicked over to the Bored and Brilliant challenges, give that a whirl ~ specific for device use. They look fun too! Take care!

  3. Lorie March 2, 2018 at 12:02 am #

    Well then! A good read! Coincidently I have been off of social media as well and plan to be until Easter. My facebook is logged out of and deleted off of my phone, yet I keep messenger for communication otherwise I’d be completely off of it. It’s been interesting for the last week since this decision and I do know what you mean about the mental deadness because I didn’t know that I was until I removed the social media!!!

    • Lauren
      Lauren March 2, 2018 at 7:45 am #

      Great to hear from you, Lorie! Glad we can connect in other ways 🙂 I’ve been talking to so many artist friends who are complaining about this same thing and haven’t yet connected the dots (as well as others who are figuring it out and making the necessary changes). We are an especially vulnerable group! I hope your art practice is thriving once again! Hugs!

      • Grace Brooks March 2, 2018 at 7:37 pm #

        ‘I’m wondering about social media being addictive. I know the games can be. I’ve wasted more time playing games than I’ve spent writing. This has got to stop, or at least I have to get the time spent on FB and other medias, under control. Adult coloring books are addictive, so is a good book. I’m not sure if I will resign from B.

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